1. You’re not in a relationship yet. “Three dates is an arbitrary timeline,” Syrtash says. “The first two times you meet up, you’re having fun and learning about each other. Generally speaking, the third time you hang out is when he might put pressure on himself to make a decision because he doesn’t want to send the wrong signal. After that, when the fourth date would usually occur, the feeling he may have is that the two of you might be heading in the direction of the relationship, which he might not be ready for.”
2. The timing isn’t right. Typically, if he falls off the face of the earth and the two of you had an amazing time on the first three dates, it’s safe to assume that this has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with bad timing.