By Josh Aiello
1. Join him in his prework morning shower.
A GUY’S GUT REACTION: Oh, you mean the only 10 minutes of alone time I get all day?
WHY IT’S NOT THAT SEXY: Getting intimate in the shower can be a divisive issue. Taking it to his prework morning shower ups the ante. This might be the only time all day a guy isn’t dying for sex. As D, 26, says, “Unless you have a seat in there, a shower romp is never as fun as it sounds. Who gets to stand under the water? And she can’t like it when she goes down on me and there’s scalding hot water blasting her in the face.” Sure makes the climax kind of anticlimactic.
2. Strongly hint that you’re in the mood, then play hard to get and make him work at seducing you.
A GUY’S GUT REACTION: Just what a guy wants when he gets home from work: more work.
WHY IT’S NOT THAT SEXY: The Chase is a game for those who’ve just met. When you’re in a new relationship, you’re so excited, you’ll try anything. I once spent three weeks eating at vegan restaurants just because a girl was cute (and vegan). Of course, I’d grab a cheeseburger afterward. But still, that’s working for it!
One of the great perks of a long-term relationship is sure-thing love making. As my buddy, Jim, 38, puts it, “If you’ve been in the relationship for a while, this tip amounts to cruel and unusual punishment.” We worked hard to catch you in the first place, so let’s just enjoy the fruits of our labor.
3. Make love in front of a mirror so you can see every erotic angle of each other’s bodies.
A GUY’S GUT REACTION: It’s the nonerotic angles we’re afraid of.
WHY IT’S NOT THAT SEXY: Maybe a guy in amazing shape wouldn’t dread this tip quite as much as I do. But even my athletic friend, Brad, 25, says, “I’m not crazy about it. It seems distracting.” When you’re scrutinizing every bit of action unfolding in the mirror, you’ll likely see some seriously nonsexy angles. Unless you’ve both discussed and agreed to it or it’s 1977 and a mirror is hanging on the ceiling above your guy’s water bed, forget the whole reflection thing. It’s too hard to get lost in the moment when you’re watching what your butt looks like in every position.