You have lots of different kinds of friends: couple friends, single friends, party friends, smarty friends, and friends of the opposite sex.
While a Y chromosome shouldn’t decide whether or not you can be friends with someone, forming a deep friendship with a member of the opposite sex while you’re in a committed relationship has potential trouble written all over it.
YourTango’s team of relationship experts got together to offer signs of emotional infidelity that can often creep up in friendship between the sexes. Should you find yourself becoming more than “just friends,” you’ll want to check these signs of emotional infidelity before you wreck your relationship:
You think about him (lots)
Your best male friend is never far from your thoughts. In fact, you think more about him than your own partner, wondering what he’s doing, how he’s doing, and likely even who he’s doing.
You tell people you’re “just friends”
If people are asking about your relationship with this guy, huge alarms should be going off in your head. Pay attention to what others are seeing!
You share intimate life details with him
Sharing personal secrets you’ve never shared with your partner is a huge emotional infidelity red flag.
You discover he’s changing you
If suddenly his interests become your own and your change is undeniable even to your partner, it’s time to reevaluate the role he plays in your life.
You get dolled up for him
You care about looking your best for your next encounter with him. Maybe you wear your hair the way he likes, or purchase clothing with his taste in mind.
You are happier with him
You laugh more and feel generally happier around him than you do your partner.
You go out of your way to spend time with him
You ditch your partner, friends, and in some cases even work to find creative ways to spend time with him.