Gena Kaufman, Glamour magazine
OK, educating young girls on how to find a husband sounds archaic and offensive, but hear this woman out.
“Who can tell us which boyfriend would be more supportive of your long work hours?”
According to an article in the Telegraph, girls need to be taught to be taught how to find a man, but it’s not how it sounds. At a conference, Helen Fraser of the Girls’ Day School Trust said that in order to have it all, including career, marriage and motherhood, girls need to choose the right partner.
Fraser isn’t the only professional woman who thinks this. She said she noticed when Sheryl Sandberg of Facebook said, “The most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry.” Fraser is essentially saying we need to teach girls to be ambitious in their relationships by finding a guy who will be a cheerleader for their careers. This way, women won’t be stopped by what she calls the “nappy wall,” i.e., the decision between children and a career, because their partner will be there to share responsibilities and support her professionally and personally.
It’s kind of like flipping around that whole “Behind every great man there’s a woman” kind of expression, right?. Of course there are women (and men) who can do it on their own, but I think most people would agree that a supportive partner makes having a family and a career much easier. It’s definitely something that’s important to me when I picture my future: a guy who wants to be an equal partner in raising children and supporting each other. I’m not sure exactly how one would teach that in school, but if there are free lessons in finding this kind of guy, sign me up.
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