How to Tell If He is More Than a Summer Fling
By Elisa Benson
Summer Fling: He highlights his man parts.
When a guy props one foot on the edge of your beach chair or on the rung of your stool at a bar, he’s subconsciously putting his crotch on display. In other words: “He’s letting everyone else know that he wants to nail you,” says Janine Driver, President of the Body Language Institute. “He’s like a dog, marking his territory.”
Something More: He raises his eyebrows.
Pay attention to his face when you’re talking. If he raises his eyebrows a lot, he’s into you. Experts say it shows he’s so elated to be with you that he literally can’t hold himself (i.e., his eyebrows) down. Think of it like an erection…of the brows.
Summer Fling: He broadcasts your location.
If a guy snaps a pic of you two, posts it to Facebook, and immediately tags you, he’s trying to show off and rack up social cred, says Katherine Chloé Cahoon, author of The Single Girl’s Guide to Meeting European Men. Booty-chasers are all about the instant gratification-from you and the rest of the world.
Something More: He’s vague on Facebook.
When you’re creeping a new guy’s FB page for signs he’s into you (like maybe a mention of the killer show he went to the other night, which just happened to be with you), don’t be surprised if the results are meh-in a good way. “A lot of relationship men are vague on Facebook,” says Cahoon. “They want to build trust with you before they send a friend request or post anything about you.”
Summer Fling: He listens with his hands.
A guy who asks what you majored in-while running his hand down your back or grazing your thigh-doesn’t actually care about the answer. He’s so focused on p-in-v action, he can’t help but bring a sexual charge to an otherwise innocent convo.
Something More: He gives good navel.
A man’s belly button is a sneaky tip-off to how he feels, says Driver. Basically, if he’s constantly turned toward you, he’s into you. So follow the navel: “If his friends come around and his belly button still remains angled toward you, that’s a good thing.”
Summer Fling: He wants to heat things up-literally.
“I call it the Law of Hot Tubs,” says Cahoon. “If he asks you to go hot tubbing, he’s not looking for a relationship.” It’s basically another version of asking someone to come over and watch a movie (aka hump).
Something More: He buys a Groupon.
Guys typically aren’t as future-focused as women are, so anything that suggests advance planning-buying an online deal, making restaurant reservations, or scoring movie tickets through Fandango-could indicate that he has long-term potential. Basically, Groupon Guy is the polar opposite of Booty Text Guy.
Summer Fling: He makes intense eye contact.
“A pick-up artist is so confident, to the point of being aggressive,” says Driver. “He’ll practically stare you down to show who’s in control. It’s the same technique that cops, judges, and lawyers use as a sign of intimidation.” So if he’s barely pausing to blink, don’t expect him to stick around through Labor Day. (And would you really want him too anyway?)
Something More: He’s into daytime dates.
A guy who wants to hang out when the sun is actually out likely thinks you’re a cool chick, because he’s psyched to spend time with you in situations that don’t directly lend themselves to hooking up (read: anything at night involving a bar).
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